Do you often think this
or repeat this phrase to others? Unaware of the consequences? I do. Now – somewhat
less.
I finally got it
through my head that my thoughts and expectations create my ‘tomorrow’. And the
title phrase will be creating more of the limiting fence. A phrase like this is
projecting the situation I dislike into my tomorrow.
You can help yourself
by replacing this idea in your head with, “I want (insert your thing). And I’ll
find a way to get it”.
Here is one of my
examples.
I like ballroom
dancing. My husband – does not. A few years ago taking dance classes seemed
impossible (since we do most things together). I wanted to inconvenience my
husband as little as possible, but still wanted to dance, so we started with a
Groupon samba class on a Saturday, Uptown NYC (1,5 hour one way commute). The
next step was better – tango/cha-cha class together 20 minutes’ drive from
home. The next step was still better.
Since my husband wasn’t really enjoying the classes. Yet, went for the sake of
being together and driving me (as I don’t drive).
Then it turned out the
same instructor gave private classes. During the day. So I could use public
transport without straining my husband’s patience. And besides, dragging a
person to activity he or she does not enjoy is not my cup of tea. I had 7-8 of
these classes. To tell the truth, I enjoyed most of them – the mere
pleasure of moving gracefully (tango and waltz) though was frustrated at times when
I couldn’t read the leader’s cues. Finally the 4 hours I spent on commute
and the lesson became too much for me. Besides, the studio didn’t have group
classes.
So I told myself,
“There should be classes in NYC with convenient location”. I had the same
confidence I now have when I order anything from the Universe – shoes, hat,
experience. And I did find them. There is a great studio Downtown with Carina
Moeller https://tangonyc.com/
(if any of my readers lives in NYC). The only slight inconvenience for the
family is that it’s an evening class. But it’s all right! How often are YOU
inconvenienced by family obligations?
I do not mind reaching my
goals gradually and disrupting the status quo I am unhappy with. I only
replaced “they don’t let me, I cannot” in my head with “there is a way and I’ll
find it”.
When my brother was between rental apartments and was living with
friends, he needed a place for his cat. Since his friends said, “Three people, suitcases,
and a cat will be too hard on our sanity and furniture.” The house was
newly renovated.
So, the cat was brought into my one-bedroom. I was living alone at the
time, with my husband gone to the States. I like cats and I imagined from my
childhood experience a peaceful cohabitation.
The surprise came the very first morning. At 5 a.m. the cat, started charging
my bedroom door in very decisively. At first I thought like any inexperienced
cat owner, “There is no way I am getting up at 5 am for a cat’s crazy whim;
she’ll tire of it soon.” Yet after 6-7 attacks she was still
going strong.
Beautiful World
Quotes from “The Secret life of Walter Mitty”
Beautiful things do not ask for attention.
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If I like a moment, I don’t take a picture. I just stay in it. I don’t like the distraction of the camera.
And how long was this cat living with you?
ReplyDeleteFrom a few weeks to couple of months. I got used both to pleasant and unpleasant side of our sojourn.
DeleteThe pleasant - watching movies while stroking the cat. I enjoyed it very much.